And be kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God in Christ also forgave you. (Ephesians 4:32, MEV)

We are living in a world that is increasingly polarized, angry, and divided. When people disagree, the answer seems to be to denigrate, ostracize, and demean those with other points of view. The internet has made things worse. People are saying things online that they would have never spoken face to face.

Here’s a revolutionary idea: Try a  little kindness.

There were times that Jesus spoke words of correction or rebuke, but the entire tenor of his life and ministry was love, compassion, mercy, and forgiveness. He didn’t come to condemn but to save. He didn’t come to destroy but to heal. He went against the grain by being a living example of self-sacrifice and forgiveness. It all culminated on the cross when He prayed for His enemies, “Father, forgive them for they know not what they do.”

As Christians, we are encouraged by the Apostle Paul to follow Jesus’ example and “… be kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God in Christ also forgave you. “(Ephesians 4:32, MEV) This verse is from a section of the letter to the church at Ephesus which we might call “How to Live.” We are to be merciful when it comes to dealing with people. 

Yes, many people are doing stupid and wrong things, but how many of us have not done stupid and wrong things. We are all in need of mercy. Therefore, we should give mercy, and we should pray for mercy for those who are out of the way.

I believe that there is more potential for change through love and kindness than there is to anger and hatred. My mother used to say, “You’ll get further with sugar than vinegar.” I believe that there is a lot of truth in that, although there are some times when vinegar is needed. Love is more powerful than hate. Love never fails, so if you want to be a winner, walk in love.

The scripture says, “A soft answer turns away wrath, but grievous words stir up anger. (Proverbs 15:1, MEV) When you are attacked and criticized, you might be surprised to find out what happens when you respond with love and tenderness. You may melt away some grievous hurt and pain in your attacker, which could open the door for reconciliation. And even if nothing changes in them, you have done the right thing by attempting to be a peacemaker, and you have kept your own spirit pure.

I know from personal experience that it can be difficult to return good for evil, but when we do, we will come out on top, if not in the eyes of man, then in the eyes of God. Jesus said, “… love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you, (Matthew 5:44, MEV)

Love is the great cure-all. Love is the way to preach the Gospel. Love is the way to speak the truth. Love is the way to heal hurts and bring change. As the scripture says, “Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.” (Romans 12:21, MEV) You will win more people with kindness than with the strongest argument.

Not only is kindness good for others, but it is also good for you. Walking in love and kindness will bring you joy. It will heal your wounds. It will bring you to a whole new level with God.

So, dare to be different. Try a little kindness!